Worry Like a Pro
Worrying is like a rocking chair.
It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.
So many things to worry about and so little time! After many years of diligent worry practice, I realized that I wasn’t making a dent in all the worrying that needed to be done to keep all the bad things I could think of from happening. Amazingly, some of the bad things happened anyway and the world did not end. And, equally amazing, bad things I hadn’t even thought of also happened and life still went on.
Worrying is my attempt to control the world around me. It shows my lack of trust in other’s ability to handle their own situations and my inflated belief that, if only I were in charge, things would be much better.
When I obsess about things I can’t do anything about, it’s like wishing for the worst and sending negative energy out into the world. Going through all possible worst case scenarios doesn’t prepare me to handle those situations any better, if they were to happen, but it does increase my stress level.
And statistically, isn’t it just as likely that the best could happen? Now, when I get caught up in catastrophizing, I ask myself if there’s an action I can take and then do it. For the rest of the stuff, I visualize the best possible outcome and give people the benefit of the doubt. Sure, sometimes I’m disappointed, but then again, sometimes I’m right. It’s a good thing I’m not a betting woman.