Spring Growing Pains
along with spring leaves
my child’s teeth
are coming in
When I was growing up, my father would tie a thread around my tooth when it was very loose, and tie the other end to a doorknob. Then he would open the door. The pain of the tooth being yanked out was almost as much as the dread I felt knowing it would happen. Yet, once it was gone, I had a tooth to put under my pillow and an enviable hole in my mouth to show friends. And eventually, there would be a bigger tooth in its place.
We’re all being asked to grow in ways that are uncomfortable, maybe even painful, and to do it immediately. We’re learning new technologies with a steep learning curve. When everything we do is from home, our home life becomes more visible to others. Even though it’s through the computer, we’re “inviting” more people into our house than ever before.
Emotional and spiritual growth can also be uncomfortable. First, there is a sense that something doesn’t fit right anymore. Perhaps it’s an idea or view of myself that is limiting me in some way. Getting rid of that idea or view is scary and painful. Who will I be, if I let go of that? What will take its place? I have to wiggle the idea around for a while and figure out what’s keeping it in place. But once I decide to embrace a bigger version of myself, I feel lighter and more peaceful.
This more expansive view of myself doesn’t fall into my lap fully realized. It takes effort and commitment. I need to develop more skills, spend more time meditating and visualizing, and continue to question how to move forward to become that better me. I want the process to be faster and smoother because I focus on results. But instant results are insubstantial at best. A mindful, open and curious process is what leads to the kind of growth and results I seek. How are you growing this spring?