Holding the water,
held by it—
the dark mud.
~William J. Higginson
Is it the soil that holds the water to create mud or the water that holds the soil? Either way, it’s mud. This haiku helps me remember that I look at things depending on my perspective and the story I tell myself. Perhaps it’s part of my perfectionism, but I have a “not good enough” story that I tell myself when things don’t go the way I expect. When I fall back on my “not good enough” story, I end up feeling badly about myself and my situation; I feel sorry for myself or angry at others and nothing useful happens.
Usually, I’m able to remind myself that that is my old story. The good thing about being able to identify the story I’m telling myself is that I can choose to tell a different story. I can decide that my new story is about overcoming obstacles, having persistence, and accepting that I am not a perfect person, but a person giving her best effort in the moment. When I shift my perspective that way, I can find new ways to solve a problem or a better way to move forward.
Whether I tell my old story or tell my new story, the situation I’m in is the same. The only thing that changes is how I treat myself and others, and that totally changes the next moment that presents itself.