A Truthful Story
Be impeccable with your word
really means never use the power of
the word against yourself.
—Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz from The Fifth Agreement
I have been rereading The Fifth Agreement, a book about replacing self-limiting beliefs with those that bring about happiness and freedom. It’s been interesting to see how my thoughts and understanding of the book have changed. This first agreement reminds me that everything I say to myself is a result of and has an effect on how I view the world. When I say negative things about myself, I’m stating my belief that I am a flawed human being and that I am stuck in a situation I can’t change.
The words I use are either judgments about myself or the truth. If I say I’m stupid or a failure, I am judging myself against some ideal that does not exist. Objective truth is that I am intelligent and have used my gifts to help others. I may wish I had made a different choice in that moment, but that doesn’t make me a flawed human being. It makes me a human being who can then make a better choice.
When we strive to be our most authentic and compassionate selves, we accept who we are without judgment. If we are being impeccable, we aren’t creating a make believe world of unicorns and rainbows but seeing ourselves in the world as we truly are. The story we create allows us to live surrounded by beauty and opportunity or a world of pain and limitation. Before we can change anything about how we interact with the world, we need to be very clear about the story we tell ourselves. What’s your story?